Process versus Final Result Part II

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There is nothing I can do when my friends start to leave alternately, one by one. I know that they have to tread their own life path, which make their physical presence is no longer at my side. Escorting their fading footsteps, I only have a bunch of hope in my heart that I’m able to keep them in my memory.

 

And now I truly feel glad seeing most of them have attain their success, even though I’m still slumping in this corner of life where things seemed increasingly hostile day by day.

"I always believe that life is a continual process and not a mere final result," said a new friend replying my complaint. "There's always chances for us to be a better person. Beside, this life is too precious for regretting the past that will never return. Humankind maybe the only creatures that equipped with ability to complaint. Yet, spending time in that negative attitude does not necessarily make them humane. It is just not a wise thing to do, you know. "

Parent-Child Conflict - as told by Alissa Wahid

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Recently, I have collecting messages from a twitter account belongs to Alissa Wahid, an Indonesian family psychologist. There, at her tweets, she shares some practical tips and important things in managing parent-child conflict.
Well, with learning and sharing spirits, I try to compile it here, even though I’m aware that me myself is the person most in need of this.
May this shares be useful.

Gus Dur and Syi'ir Tanpo Waton Part III

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With an exceptional apology, I'm asking forgiveness for writing wrong story about Syiir Tanpo Waton in my last two posts. There, with a plain word, I wrote "...'Syi'ir Tanpo Waton' composed by Gus Dur..." and when a friend with wordpress account name 'heruyaheru' told me about my mistake, I start to seek a more accurate information. And, I have found out that what I have wrote is absolutly reflects my negligence.

In this post, I'm terribly sorry and I'll try my best to fix those two posts. Syi'ir Tanpo Waton is actually written by Gus Nizam, which amazingly has a voice that almost similar to Gus Dur's. And, by this point, many people become familiar and think that this syi'ir was written by Gus Dur.

Thanks again to Kang 'heruyaheru' for this.

Gus Dur and Syi'ir Tanpo Waton Part II

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Yesterday, I have promised to translate "Syi'ir Tanpo Waton". Now, allow me to fulfil that promise to you. I hope you can see why so many people, especially here in Indonesia, like the syi'ir that reflects Gus Dur humanist teachings.

As Moh Yasir Alimi, a researcher at the Center for Cultural Pluralism, Democracy and Character Building at Semarang State University, wrote for TheJakartaPost: "Gus Dur is no longer with us, but Gus Dur is like a pebble dropped in water that vanishes, as James W. Foley described in his poem. 'But there are half-a-hundred (perhaps endless) ripples circling on and on and on/ Spreading, spreading from the center, flowing on out to the sea/And there is no way of telling where the end is going to be.'"

So, Alimi is hoping that let the memory of Gus Dur warm our hearts and help us to handle the hatred and violence that dominates our public life today. Remembering the spirit of Gus Dur, let us embrace the words of Rumi: “Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone’s soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd.”

Gus Dur and Syi'ir Tanpo Waton

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Gus Dur’s charisma, even after his demise, can be traced in his spritual fame that has became legacy for humanity. Its’ so embedded and phenomenal. Following is a “syi'ir” or poem in Javanese that often considered as reflections of Gus Dur's humanist teachings. 

This poem, which composed by Gus Nizam from Pesantren Darul Shofa Wal Wafa Desa Tanggul Simoketawang,Wonoayu Krian Sidoarjo, is often considered composed by Gus Dur—and I was one of those who thinks so. This is mainly because each line in the poem is so close to Gus Dur personality in defending pluralism and humanity in Indonesia.

Happy New Islamic Year 1434 Hijra

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Happy New Islamic Year 1434 Hijra

May this year be a year full of baraka, and all of us will be bestowed a fine healthiness, overwhelmed with an abundant rizq, endued a fine settlement in every problem we faced, and given consistency in worshiping, praising, and glorifying Allah Ta’ala, amin.

Leaving Job for the Kids

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Recently, I had a friend that tell me his story that a little bit touches my heart. With his permissions, I write the story here with a deal that I will never mention all the names involved.

My friend is a former freelancer in a small publishing company that becoming almost jobless with a little position that suit his skill. Concomitant with the need of a better skill of workers, my friend is start to lose a chance to work since he doesn't have a degree. 

Process versus Final Result

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"Forget your past so you can embrace your future," he said.

"How can I do that? Everyone know that man is a product of his past," I asked.

"Do whatever it takes! Because only then you will be able to swing a lighter step towards the infinite horizon of the future without a compulsory to bear the burden that might inhibits your efforts. "

"A heavy choice,” I can only sigh. “I'm not sure I can do that. "

Imagining Abu Nawas

Abu Nuwas drawn by Khalil Gibran in 1916. (wikipedia)

my prostration will never adds anything to Your greatness....

and my sins will also never reduce the sanctity of Thy....

Lord... sometimes I imagine who Abu Nawas really is, and sometimes I'm expecting the hope of his....

10 Javanese Philosophy of Life

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Javanese people is well-known for their noble principle. Although some people think those noble values began to fade, but still we cannot turn a blind eye on the importance of these philosophy of life. Following is ten Javanese philosophy of life with a brief explanations.
Hopefully, these can become a reflection material for all of us, especially for my self... :)

Ramadhan Advice from Gus Mus

source: gusmus.net

compiled by Muhammad Yusuf Anas on July 31, 2011 at 1:08

Dear friends, this note is simply my effort to record KH A. Mustofa Bisri’s tweet about Ramadhan. And I’m trying my best to translate it to English, with a bunch of hope that it can bring some meaning to all of you. 

I’m seeking for permission and forgiving to Gus Mus and not to forget I’m also would like to show my gratitude.